you know. i'm torn. i'm not sure what to believe anymore. you know how they say opposites attract? well i think the logic goes something like this: they complete you. they fill in the gaps in which you are lacking. they bring that missing element that throws your world for a spin and you freaking love it. look at eternal sunshine for a spotless mind. ok maybe that was a bad example because opposite attaracted...but didn't...then attracted. too messy to explain. but it's true, imagine dating someone that's just like you. they like the same things, enjoy the same foods, same music, same books....amazing right? perfect. but it's really not. then it just gets boring. nothing is left to the imagination. wonder what they're thinking? why wonder? you're probably thinking the same thing! it's like in seinfield when jerry dated his like female jerry counterpart. it's amazing at first because you guys share so many interests, but those are platonic relationships in the making. not romantic ones. imagine dating yourself. ugh.

i think most people are looking to be challenged by someone even if they fail to admit it. they want the other person to challenge them to be a better person, not the same. they want to learn new things and to share new interests. the theme is "new" and "challenging", not "old" and "comforting".

at the same time there is this idea that the wole jerry maguire line is full of crap. people who need other people to complete them are simply people who aren't ready for a relationship. they depend on each other too much. they are needy. people need to be complete people on their own first. that's the only way to survive a long lasting relationship and to live to tell about it.

too bad i never feel complete, and i don't even know what the opposite of me is.

i shall stay single forever.